There is something about a dad of a girl/ girls. A good girl dad is masculine yet gentle. Firm, yet kind. They always know the right thing to say and have the patience to say it. They know that children learn through example and they are sure to constantly be setting a good one; especially on how men should treat women. They also learn what they have to learn in order to help their little girl do girl things; things that they may not have otherwise thought about or had to understand before becoming a girl dad (i.e. potty training). In honor of the hubs KILLING it as a girl dad for exactly 2.5 years now, I have compiled a list (with girl dad input of course) of how you know that you are a girl dad. You know you're a girl dad when...
- You have full-blown conversations with your toddler on whether or not clothes match.
- After a 15ish minute conversation about whether or not certain clothing matched, mainly our child telling her dad that her clothes did, in fact, match, my husband sent my daughter out of her room to find me and have her outfit approved. She had on a red Christmas skirt, orange leggings and a teal Frozen t-shirt. This absolutely did NOT match and I was actually a little scared that my husband might have allowed her to wear this outffit out in public had I not been there; however, I was able to bribe Olivia in to changing clothes to something at least within the same color scheme.
- You get that princess PJs (bonus if it's a dress) always trumps other PJs.
- There could be 17 sets of pajamas, that include both a matching top and bottoms of various lengths, clean, but if that Frozen or Ariel nightgown is clean, you always know that if you put your daughter in her regular old PJs all hell will break loose.
- You always know who has to be present at bedtime in order for it to be successful.
- Tasha? Check. Kiki? Check. Diko? Check. Minnie Mouse? Check. If you don't take roll to make sure the gang is all there, you know that no one is going to bed anytime soon, ESPECIALLY your little princess.
- You know the names of all of the Disney princesses and their princes, their friends, their friend's brother, their friend's brother's sister's mother, etc.
- After about the 25th viewing of a Disney movie and your mini lady asking you, again, "who's that?" "What's her doing?" You find that you do, unfortunately, know all of these answers and begin to wonder when the next nearby trivia night is so that you can utilize your newfound knowledge. No trivia night? Well, parents can also slightly change their answers each time to totally confuse your toddler just for kicks; I mean, why not have a little fun with it?
- You've practiced how to give someone a ponytail more times than you care to admit.
- The time comes when your tiny angel will decide that there is a certain appearance that she is going for. At times, this appearance may involve having a ponytail or two. With this decision, comes the realization that, not only will ponytail(s) be non-negotiable, but she also has an idea of who MUST give her said ponytail(s). The first time she asks you for a ponytail is the last time you will say "go ask your mom!" After practicing on the baby doll, the wife and a few failed attempts on the actual child, you finally nail the ponytail. With the figuring out of the ponytail, comes a dad who is even MORE confident in his clothes matching skills' and then we're right back where we started.
- You're the only person on the planet that can calm your little lady down when she is sad or scared, and you kind of like it.
- And there they are, the sleepy/ scared sobs from Daddy's little princess, "Daaaaaaaddy, daaaaaaady, my daaaaaaady!" You know that the sound of a lady in distress means that they might be scared and that they, of course, will need their one and only daddy to go to their room and check for monsters or turn on another light or no more sleep shall be had by anyone. After a room check and a quick daddy snuggle, all is always well again...well for about 4 minutes anyway.
- You never knew how protective (or overprotective) you could be until you met your baby girl.
- Every tear, every scrape, every disappointment that she experiences will shake you to your very core; but you also know that you can't beat-up every person or, when they're older, lover who breaks her heart. All you can do is be a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on and teach her to take all of those experiences as opportunities to shape her future self. And oh how awesome her future self will be!
Involved dads, you're doing a great job just being there. Thanks for stopping by!
Love, Another Daddy's Girl!