On this date 10 years ago the #1 song on the Billboard Hot 100 chart was "Don't matter" by Akon. Upon hearing this I got to thinking about the things that, after I became a mom, stopped mattering such as:
1. The need to be a size ZERO.
Don't get my wrong, I still want to be skinny! Before I had kids I would realize that I needed to shed a couple of pounds before an upcoming trip or swimsuit season and cut carbs for a few weeks or make a few diet changes and BOOM, I was ready. But, now that I have children, I have had to learn to be comfortable in my body and just put my swimsuit on before I feel "ready" or deal with the fact that I might not fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes for a while.
2. Going out every weekend.
In college if I didn't go out and party at least once on the weekends I didn't feel like I was living life to it's fullest. And, I won't lie, those days were so much fun and my college pals and I love to reminisce about those times; however, there is a new, unspoken, understanding between all of us now. We just know that our priorities and out commitments have changed and, honestly, we are just too tired to go out every weekend, and we are okay with that. it doesn't mean we don't still try to get together but it's not as frequent and a little less blacking-out occurs.
3. Living in the city.
Currently, I have an actual Kansas City, Missouri address and LOVE where I am. However, I'd be lying if I said I am not currently pressing my husband to consider moving to the 'burbs. It's just time and it is starting to be what is right for our expanding family. We both love our house so much that it has been a difficult, ongoing conversation but it's one that has had to be had as we think about the school we would like our first born to attend (she will be preschool age this summer, yikes!) and our constant need for more space.
4. Having the cutest clothes.
Don't get me wrong, I LOVE to shop! However, my shopping preferences have changed. I used to enjoy buying myself a new top or dress every other week or so just so that I had something different to wear out with my friends. Now, I love (and this is a DEEP love) buying clothes for my ladies. I mean, aren't girls' clothes the cutest things ever?
5. Staying up late.
I used to have a feeling in the back of my mind when I was in my 20's that I was being super lame if I went to bed before like 9:00 PM. Now, 9:00 PM is almost late. Crazy right? My first-born gets up at 5:00 AM so really, it's not crazy at all. Sleep comes first these days and I am so not ashamed.
6. The overall need to please people.
Anyone who knew me about 5 years ago knows that if someone was mad at me I don't take it very lightly and would dwell on it until the problem was resolved. Now that I have children, this is something that I have noticed majorly changed in me. If someone is mad at me now, I tend to take 5 seconds to determine if it's even really that important and, if it's not, than I don't dwell on it and I move right along with my day. There are just way too many things going on in my life right now to deal with issues that are miniscule.
What stopped mattering when YOU became a mom?