...that I TOTALLY let my 2nd child do...OOPS!
I just swore, like we all do, that I would do everything EXACTLY the same as I did with my firstborn child. Obviously I was extremely incorrect and have fallen victim to the less restrictive lifestyle of putting survival ahead of all other parenting goals. What, the baby is playing with the toilet paper? Three words... LET. IT. HAPPEN. Toilet paper is soft, right? Here are some other things I have grown a little more lax on as I am (re)learning to parent a second baby:
1. I would have NEVER let my firstborn use wipes that had touched the floor.
Baby 2 LOVES to find the wipes package annnnywhere in the house and pull them all out and throw them all over the floor. With baby 1 I would have put an end to that immediately and put the wipes away; however with baby 2 I see her having fun and think go ahead little one. The minute she is over it, or all of the wipes are out of the package, instead of placing them in the trashcan I shove them all RIGHT back in to that package for late use. I would have never let those exposed wipes touch my firstborn child's bum... now I see how COMPLETELY ridiculous that is...wipes are EXPENSIVE!
2. I would have NEVER let my firstborn have a potato chip.
Baby 2 is an EATER. The girl will eat everything you give her and then expect everyone around her to give her what they are eating too... and I won't lie, I totally cave every time as she is SUPER cute and I am usually trying to bribe my firstborn in to completing a meal when the baby is done. So what if I am eating a potato chip you ask? I give the little lady a flippin' potato chip. She is a cautious eater and I am sitting right next to her so I pass the sucker over and let her have a go at it. Keep crunchin' little one!
3. I would have NEVER let my firstborn try low-fat yogurt early.
The doctor said NOTHING but yogurt containing whole milk until your baby is 1. I would not low-fat yogurt NEAR my firstborn's lips until she was exactly 12 months. Same for baby 2? No way! Didn't you just read that she wants to eat everything? Big sis is now allowed to have low-fat yogurt and if she is eating that and baby sis gets none it will not go well for ANYONE. Who wants yogurt?
4. I would have NEVER let my firstborn sleep with a blanket.
Again, the doctors all say no blankets until your baby is 1. I completely agree that blankets are scary and shouldn't be allowed in a baby's bed with them all night long; especially if that baby is under 6 months; however, if a baby likes the feel of a certain blanket (baby 2 is obsessed with super soft fleece) and you are awake to watch them, why not allow them to snuggle with their favorite blankie during nap? I won't lie, our baby is almost 11 months and just last week I threw in the towel and started to let her snuggle with her blankie at night too... she sleeps so much better with one of her favorite snuggle blankets. This is obviously every parents' own decision but, again, I wouldn't have ever DREAMED of letting my first born sleep with a blanket... EVER.
5. I would have NEVER let my firstborn feed herself.
I am so not meaning finger foods. I am talking bottles. For my firstborn I was so full of remorse for switching her to formula (seriously not sure why I was so distraught but whatever) that I would rarely let anyone else hold her to feed her as I wanted her to know that I was her mom (like she could forget) and I was the source of her milk (talk about dramatic). NOW, it is a rare occasion that I have the time to actually sit and hold baby 2 while she sucks down half a bottle and then attempts to dive in to the floor to get away from me so she can get back to what she was doing...so a lot of the time I am totally guilty of letting her have her bottle and sucking it down herself (at a reclined angle, of course). Hey, she is fed right? (BONUS: Only 1 month until bottles go buh-bye!)
What did you notice that you allowed with your 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc. children that you would have absolutely never done with your first child? It's nice to feel a little more comfortable with something. I truly think my 2nd baby is even happier as we both don't feel so much pressure to follow every single rule, every single second of every single day.